Everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have; believing this as truth will dramatically shape the way we view the world and our place within it.
A few weeks ago I was stewing in disappointment over a few different things; feeling like I lacked strong boundaries, fear that I was attracting toxic relationships that didn't fuel my tank, anxiety that my business wasn't growing as fast as I thought it should, uncertainty in my partnership and sadness over friendships loved, lost and even disconnected.
It was my commitment to my yoga practice that began to shake things up for me and help me step into the magnitude of the truth - don't take things personally, this isn't about you, but it is however for you to examine your wounds, your patterns to run when things get tough, and an archetypal pattern to sabotage the juicy experiences that bring forth too much joy or too much pain.
Boundaries are fundamental, they are the building blocks to acceptance, joy, self-care and ultimately self-love - without healthy boundaries we lose sight of who we are, we lack responsibility for our energy and we chip away at our our inherent dimensions of self-worth.
I made sure to let people know what my boundaries were, what was ok and what wasn't and lovingly released expectations of who and what I thought people should be in relationship to my life.
Creating these boundaries and speaking my truth cut off any toxicity either imagined or real and allowed me to surrender my comparison of what success ought to look like, it also set up the parameters for my relationship to flourish because I actively chose authenticity as my goal rather than approval.
In any given moment we can choose to put our happiness in the drivers seat and make everything else secondary. Seeing the best in the people around us clears psychic space for them to rise to their highest potential while also clearing the space for compassion towards ourselves. It's also important to communicate consciously with people when boundaries are being ignored or broken, this way we teach people how we want to be loved.
The people that are meant to stay in our life will, it's as simple as that.
I like to imagine that behind the veil we are all just embracing one another in love as we sign contracts to help each other heal in this life, sometimes that shows up as hurt feelings, broken promises, lies, betrayal and abandonment.
It's easy to get caught up in the story of why these things happen rather than taking responsibility for our lives and viewing the world symbolically, only when we embrace this truth can we begin to trust the divine order of things.